Love & Marriage UniversityLove University中文100 Courses
100 Courses for Learning the Work of Love
One real question in each course, organised into ten connected learning modules.
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Module 1 | Feelings, expression, and consent
Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.
No.001 Why Can’t Love Rely on Feelings Alone?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.002 How Can You Voice Dissatisfaction Without Starting a Fight?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.003 If She Didn’t Say “No,” Does That Mean She Consented?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.004 How Can You Express Interest Without Crossing a Line?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.005 How Can You Say No Without Humiliating Someone?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.006 How Do You Keep Your Self-Respect After Rejection?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.007 Why Is “Being Good to You” Not the Same as Respect?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.008 What Is Emotional Blackmail?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.009 How Can You Rebuild the Facts After a Misunderstanding?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.No.010 How Can You Say Clearly What You Need?Begin with attraction, then learn expression, refusal, consent, and needs.
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Module 2 | Knowing yourself and choosing a relationship
Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.
No.011 Why Does Listening Not Mean Immediate Agreement?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.012 Where Does Security in a Relationship Come From?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.013 Do I Love This Person—or the Feeling of Being Needed?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.014 Why Are We Drawn to People Who Do Not Respond?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.015 What Do I Actually Want From a Relationship?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.016 Do Shared Interests Mean Long-Term Compatibility?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.017 Which Differences Can Be Negotiated—and Which Are Dealbreakers?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.018 How Can You Tell When You’re Idealizing Someone?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.019 What Is the Difference Between Attraction and Compatibility?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.No.020 What Should You Discuss Before Starting a Relationship?Before entering a relationship, understand your expectations, patterns, and choices.
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Module 3 | Boundaries, safety, and warning signs
Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.
No.021 What Is a Boundary, Really?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.022 Why Don’t You Need to Prove Yourself Before Saying No?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.023 Is It Ever Okay to Check Your Partner’s Phone?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.024 When Does Jealousy Become Control?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.025 What Is the Difference Between Care and Surveillance?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.026 Why Can Demanding That You Leave Friends Be a Warning Sign?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.027 What Is Financial Control in a Relationship?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.028 What Is Coercive Control, and Why May It Leave No Bruises?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.029 Is Persistent Tracking and Harassment After a Breakup Still Love?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.No.030 How Do You Make a Safety Plan When a Relationship Feels Dangerous?Recognise boundaries, control, and risk; place safety before saving a relationship.
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Module 4 | Conflict, communication, and repair
Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.
No.031 Why Do Some Arguments Escalate So Quickly?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.032 Is Pausing an Argument Avoidance—or Protection for the Conversation?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.033 What Is the Difference Between Complaining About an Event and Attacking a Person?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.034 Why Do We Rush to Defend Ourselves When Criticised?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.035 Why Is Contempt More Damaging Than Anger?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.036 Is Silent Withdrawal Cooling Down—or Punishment?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.037 How Do You Apologise Beyond Simply Saying “Sorry”?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.038 How Can Repair Begin After Trust Is Damaged?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.039 What Does It Mean When the Same Conflict Keeps Returning?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.No.040 When Is Repair No Longer the Only Choice?Conflict is inevitable; escalation, harm, and repair can be understood and practised.
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Module 5 | Trust, attachment, and emotional intimacy
Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.
No.041 What Can Attachment Styles Explain—and What Can’t They Decide?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.042 What Is Happening When You Constantly Ask, “Do You Still Love Me?”Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.043 How Can You Reassure Someone Without Making Promises You Cannot Keep?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.044 How Can You Share Vulnerability Safely in a Relationship?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.045 Why Isn’t Advice Always Helpful When Someone Is Hurting?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.046 Who Is Carrying the Emotional Labour in the Relationship?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.047 Why Can Two People Still Feel Lonely Together?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.048 How Can Partners Discuss Physical Closeness While Respecting Boundaries?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.049 Why Do Partners Still Need Friends and Lives of Their Own?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.No.050 How Do You Keep Knowing Each Other After Many Years?Do not treat labels as destiny; build dependable connection in ordinary life.
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Module 6 | Shared life and shared decisions
Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.
No.051 How Should Couples Talk About Money?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.052 Why Are Chores About More Than Who Does a Little More?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.053 How Do Partners Decide When Their Careers Conflict?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.054 When Is Moving Cities for a Relationship Fair?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.055 Do Loving Partners Still Need Time of Their Own?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.056 How Should Couples Negotiate Social-Media and Messaging Boundaries?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.057 How Can Friendships Outside the Relationship Stay Both Open and Free?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.058 Who Sets Boundaries When Extended Families Interfere?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.059 Must Partners Agree on Every Major Decision?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.No.060 How Can “Our Future” Become a Concrete Conversation?Bring money, chores, time, family, and the future into honest discussion.
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Module 7 | Commitment, marriage, and long-term partnership
Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.
No.061 What Does Commitment Actually Mean?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.062 What Does Marriage Mean to Two People?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.063 What Must Be Discussed Before Marriage?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.064 Why Do People Seem to Change After Marriage?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.065 How Can Long-Term Partners Create Romance Again?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.066 Why Does Resentment Keep Growing?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.067 How Do Illness and Caregiving Stress Change a Relationship?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.068 How Can Parents Disagree Without Putting a Child in the Middle?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.069 How Can a Relationship Reorient During Midlife?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.No.070 How Can Partners Practice Growing Old Together?Commitment is not a promise alone, but a pattern of visible long-term action.
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Module 8 | Breakups, loss, and beginning again
Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.
No.071 How Can You Tell That a Relationship May Be Ending?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.072 How Can You End a Relationship Clearly Without Being Cruel?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.073 Why Can Being Left Hurt Like a Physical Injury?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.074 Is No Contact Always Necessary After a Breakup?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.075 How Do You Allow Yourself to Grieve a Relationship?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.076 How Can Separated Parents Protect Their Children While Co-parenting?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.077 What Do Children Most Need to Hear When Parents Divorce?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.078 Why May Rushing Into a New Relationship Fail to Ease the Pain?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.079 Can You Trust Again After Betrayal?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.No.080 How Can You Begin Again Without Placing the Past on Someone New?Learn to end, grieve, and begin again without losing yourself inside the pain.
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Module 9 | Adolescence and parent–young person communication
Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.
No.081 How Can Parents Talk With a Young Person About Liking Someone?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.082 Why Don’t Parents Need to Panic About a Young Person’s First Crush?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.083 How Can Parents Support a Rejected Young Person Without Taking Over?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.084 How Can Parents Teach Bodily, Privacy, and Social Boundaries?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.085 What Safety Knowledge Do Young People Need in Online Relationships?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.086 How Can Parents Respect Teen Privacy While Staying Responsibly Involved?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.087 Which Relationship Warning Signs Should Lead a Young Person to Seek Adult Help?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.088 How Should Parents Speak When They Disapprove of Someone Their Child Likes?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.089 How Can a Heart-to-Heart Conversation Avoid Becoming an Interrogation?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.No.090 How Can Parents Offer Support When a Young Person Will Not Talk?Help young people understand feelings, boundaries, and safety—and help parents truly listen.
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Module 10 | Love as public knowledge and lifelong practice
Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.
No.091 What Does “Love Yourself” Mean Beyond a Slogan?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.092 What Is the Difference Between Solitude and Loneliness?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.093 Why Are Friendship and Community Part of Relationship Education?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.094 How Do Gender Stereotypes Limit Expression and Care?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.095 How Can You Care for Others Without Draining Yourself?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.096 Why Is Intimacy Both Easier and Harder in the Digital Age?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.097 How Can AI Help Relationship Education—and What Must It Never Do for Us?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.098 How Do Culture and Family Background Shape Our Understanding of Love?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.099 Who Gets to Define a “Good Relationship”?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.No.100 After 100 Days, How Do You Keep Practising Love?Turn relationship education from private luck into public knowledge anyone can keep practising.